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Telling your children about your impending divorce is always a tough conversation. However, open and honest discussion remains vital for a healthier transition process.

If possible, both parents should be present when telling children about divorce. If the kids have questions or concerns, both parents being present helps everyone to be on the same page. For your children, seeing their parents together reinforces the overall commitment to the family, even if the structure will be changing.

How much detail you choose to share depends on the age and maturity of your child. For example, younger children require simple explanations while older children may demand more complex answers. No matter your child’s age, approach the conversation with care and sensitivity.

Follow these four general talking points when telling children about a divorce:

1. Reassure Them: Tell your children that you both love them and that the divorce is not their fault. This reminder reduces self-blame and anxiety, especially for young children.
   
2. Prepare Them for Change: Be honest about how daily activities such as living arrangements, school and other routines may change. Explain that although routines may change, their best interest will still be prioritized.
   
3. Avoid Blame: Avoid placing blame on either parent or criticizing parental behavior. Instead, model calm and mature behavior by using neutral and respectful language.
   
4. Encourage Open Conversation: It is likely children will have many questions about the divorce. Validate any feelings or concerns and encourage them to come to you with questions at any time.

For more information about divorce from the experts at Schmitt Law PLLC, please contact us here to schedule a consultation or call us directly at 616.608.4634.

While the state of Michigan does not require you to hire an attorney to handle your divorce, there are many reasons why working with a divorce attorney can improve the outcome.

Navigating a child custody case can Some individuals may try to avoid hiring a divorce attorney in an effort to save money. However, not hiring a qualified attorney often costs more in the long run. Because of this, it is important to consider all aspects of your situation before deciding whether or not to hire a divorce attorney.

Here are five reasons you may want an attorney for your divorce:

1. You Don’t Have Experience: Divorce attorneys use their legal expertise to help you better understand your divorce. They will help with everything from helping you navigate the legal system correctly to leading you in negotiations with your spouse.
   
2. Your Divorce Is Complex: Most divorces are complicated, but some are even more complex than others. Whether your divorce involves small children, shared properties, large amounts of debt, money or any other important assets, you may want to consider hiring an experienced attorney to ensure you get your fair share.

3. It’s Not Amicable: When one partner is against the idea of divorce, it can make the process much more complicated. Hiring a divorce attorney can help prevent fighting between both parties and offer a more objective view throughout your divorce, thus reducing the likelihood of snap-judgment decisions and regret.
   
4. Your Spouse Has An Attorney: Facing your spouse’s attorney without one on your side can lead to unfair outcomes. Hiring a divorce attorney will even the playing field and help both parties reach a fair agreement.
   
5. You’re Stressed: Filing for divorce can be a long, complicated and emotional process. By having an attorney in your corner, you can spend your time processing or helping your kids through the process, while your attorney takes care of all the legal aspects of your divorce.
   

For more information about divorce from the experts at Schmitt Law, PLLC, please contact us online to arrange a consultation or call us directly at 616.608.4634. Our office is located at 401 Hall Street SW, Suite 112D, Grand Rapids, MI 49503.