Telling your children about your impending divorce is always a tough conversation. However, open and honest discussion remains vital for a healthier transition process.
If possible, both parents should be present when telling children about divorce. If the kids have questions or concerns, both parents being present helps everyone to be on the same page. For your children, seeing their parents together reinforces the overall commitment to the family, even if the structure will be changing.
How much detail you choose to share depends on the age and maturity of your child. For example, younger children require simple explanations while older children may demand more complex answers. No matter your child’s age, approach the conversation with care and sensitivity.
Follow these four general talking points when telling children about a divorce:
- Reassure Them: Tell your children that you both love them and that the divorce is not their fault. This reminder reduces self-blame and anxiety, especially for young children.
- Prepare Them for Change: Be honest about how daily activities such as living arrangements, school and other routines may change. Explain that although routines may change, their best interest will still be prioritized.
- Avoid Blame: Avoid placing blame on either parent or criticizing parental behavior. Instead, model calm and mature behavior by using neutral and respectful language.
- Encourage Open Conversation: It is likely children will have many questions about the divorce. Validate any feelings or concerns and encourage them to come to you with questions at any time.
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