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Archives for June 2022

Child Support – The Most Frequently Asked Questions

June 10, 2022 By Laurie Schmitt

One of the most asked about parenting issues is child support. Clients have many questions and misconceptions about how child support works in Michigan. The following are the some of the top questions clients ask when they meet with Schmitt Law, PLLC. For the purpose of this blog, each question contains a brief answer. However, there can be far more to the story! If you require more detailed answers, please contact Schmitt Law, PLLC to arrange for a consultation to discuss your specific case.

HOW IS CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATED IN MICHIGAN?

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In Michigan, child support is calculated using the Michigan Child Support Formula. The Michigan Child Support Formula takes into consideration the following major factors: (1) both parents’ gross incomes, (2) the amount of overnights each parent exercises (3) the number of children to be supported (4) health care costs and (5) daycare costs. There are many other factors that can be taken into consideration in determining a party’s child support obligation. Contact Schmitt Law, PLLC for more information about how your child support will be calculated.

WHAT IS CONSIDERED INCOME FOR THE PURPOSE OF CALCULATING CHILD SUPPORT?

Income includes all wages, overtime pay, commissions, bonuses, tips, royalties, interest, dividends, or other monies from all employers. Income also includes earnings from any business, profit sharing, pension or retirement, trust fund, unemployment, or disability insurance. There are many other items that are considered income for the purpose of calculating child support.  Contact Schmitt Law, PLLC for a detailed discussion about what Michigan considers income for the purpose of calculating your child support.

IF I HAVE A CHILD SUPPORT ARREARAGE, CAN I ASK IT TO BE WAIVED?

Neither the court nor Friend of the Court will waive an arrearage unless the parent receiving child support agrees to waive the arrearage. If the parent receiving child support agrees to waive a part or all of the arrearage, they can contact Friend of the Court and sign a document waiving part or all of the arrearage.

WHAT HAPPENS IF I FAIL TO PAY MY CHILD SUPPORT OBLIGATION?

If you fail to make your child support payments, Friend of the Court will take action to enforce the child support order. Some of the consequences for failure to pay support are that you can be  held in contempt of court, your passport can be taken away, your driver’s license can be suspended, other business licenses can be suspended, and you can be sentenced to jail time.

WHEN DOES MY CHILD SUPPORT OBLIGATION END?

In Michigan, child support ends when the child turns 18 years old. However, it can extend to 19.5 years old if the child is still attending high school and lives with the parent receiving the support.

CAN I STOP PAYING CHILD SUPPORT IF I AM BEING DENIED PARENTING TIME?

No! The payment of child support and parenting time are two separate legal matters. If you are not receiving your parenting time as stated in your parenting time order, you need to file a parenting time complaint with Friend of the Court or take action through the court to have your parenting time order enforced.

DO I HAVE A SAY AS TO HOW MY EX SPENDS THE CHILD SUPPORT?

No! There is no specific requirement outlining how the parent receiving child support spends the money. It is assumed that if the child is living with the parent receiving child support, the money is being used for housing, food, and clothing for the child. Child support is for the basic needs of the child, and the parent receiving support may spend the money as they deem appropriate.

DO YOU HAVE QUESTIONS RELATED TO CHILD SUPPORT?  GRAND RAPIDS FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY SERVING KENT, OTTAWA, AND ALLEGAN COUNTY. CONTACT SCHMITT LAW, PLLC.

If you have questions about how your child support will be calculated, contact Schmitt Law, PLLC.  We partner with our clients to find efficient, effective, and fair solutions. Contact Schmitt Law, PLLC online or by calling (616) 608-4634 for a consultation today.

Filed Under: Collaborative Divorce, Issues Concerning Children Tagged With: Calculation, Child Support, Michigan

Will The Judge Order Spousal Support In My Divorce Case?

June 8, 2022 By Laurie Schmitt

Every client wonders how they will financially survive during and after a divorce. During the consultation the two questions Schmitt Law, PLLC receives most often are “will I receive spousal support” and “how much will I receive”.

Many factors are considered by the court as relevant in determining whether spousal support should be awarded. If the parties are unable to reach an agreement on the amount and length of time spousal support will be paid, the issue must be decided by the judge.

The judge will review the following factors when making their decision:

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  1. THE PAST RELATIONS AND CONDUCT OF THE PARTIES.
    • It is important to note that the fault of a party or basis for the breakdown of the marriage is a relevant factor in awarding spousal support, even though Michigan is a no-fault state.
  2. THE LENGTH OF THE MARRIAGE.
    • The longer you have been married, the more likely the court is to award spousal support.
  3. THE ABILITY OF THE PARTIES TO WORK.
    • The court is more likely to award spousal support to a party who can’t work or is unlikely to find work. Spousal support may be short term to give the person time to finish school or gain job skills.
  4. THE SOURCE OF AND AMOUNT OF PROPERTY AWARDED TO THE PARTIES.
    • When deciding whether one party needs spousal support, courts consider the type and amount of property each party is getting in the divorce.
  5. THE AGE OF THE PARTIES.
    • An older person who has not worked during the marriage is more likely to need spousal support. But, if the other spouse is retired and living on a fixed income, that will weigh against awarding spousal support. 
  6. THE ABILITY OF THE PARTIES TO PAY ALIMONY.
    • The court will balance how much the paying spouse can earn with the other spouse’s ability to support her or himself.
  7. THE PRESENT SITUATION OF THE PARTIES.
    • The court will consider facts such as your earning potential, career prospects, and issues involving your children.
  8. THE NEEDS OF THE PARTIES.
    • The court will consider the current and future needs of the spouse who may receive spousal support compared to their age, health, and ability to work.
  9. THE HEALTH OF THE PARTIES.
    • A spouses’ health is relevant if it affects his or her ability to work and meet their personal needs.
  10. THE PRIOR STANDARD OF LIVING OF THE PARTIES AND WHETHER EITHER IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THE SUPPORT OF OTHERS.
    • Your standard of living during your marriage is a starting point for deciding whether spousal support should be awarded to either spouse. If divorce means one spouse will stay at the marital standard of living and the other will not, the court may use spousal support to equalize things between the parties.
  11. GENERAL PRINCIPLES OF EQUITY (FAIRNESS).
    • The court may consider any other factor they deem necessary in your specific situation.

The court will make a decision regarding the award of spousal support based on the above factors. The court may also consider anything else the court deems important and relevant in awarding spousal support. The court may not give the same weight to each factor when making their decision. However, the court must make findings on each relevant factor if one party requests spousal support.

HOW IS SPOUSAL SUPPORT PAID? 

Spousal support can be paid monthly, for a specific period of time as agreed upon by the parties or determined by the court. It also can be paid as a sum certain amount to be paid either in a lump sum (one-time payment), or over a period of an agreed time.

CONSIDERING DIVORCE?  LEARN YOUR OPTIONS WITH SCHMITT LAW, PLLC. GRAND RAPIDS COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE ATTORNEY SERVING KENT, OTTAWA, AND ALLEGAN COUNTY.

Contemplating a divorce can be one of the hardest decisions to make in life. There are many complexities involving the divorce process, making it overwhelming for most. However, know that you are not alone, and help is available. At Schmitt Law, PLLC we are here to answer your questions, ease your concerns, and protect your rights. To book a consultation, contact Schmitt Law, PLLC online or by calling (616) 608-4634.

Filed Under: Divorce Tagged With: Spousal Support

The Divorce Guide

June 6, 2022 By Laurie Schmitt

YOUR CHOICES FOR DISSOLVING YOUR MARRIAGE IN THE STATE OF MICHIGAN

DIVORCE

In the State of Michigan, all divorces in Michigan are no fault.  This means you need only state in your complaint for divorce and testify at the final hearing that “there has been a breakdown of the marriage relationship to the extent that the objects of matrimony have been destroyed and there remains no reasonable likelihood that the marriage can be preserved” and your divorce will be granted.

SEPARATE MAINTENANCE

In the State of Michigan, you may file to obtain a legal separation.  This process is called “separate maintenance”.  The procedure for obtaining a Judgment of Separate Maintenance in Michigan is practically the same as the procedure for a divorce.  The difference between a divorce and a Separate Maintenance action is when a Judgment of Separate Maintenance is entered you are divorced from everything except the bounds of matrimony.  If you have a Judgment of Separate Maintenance in Michigan rather than a Judgment of Divorce, you cannot remarry (as you remain legally married to your spouse).  If you receive a Judgment of Separate Maintenance in Michigan and then later decide you do want a divorce, you will need to file a new case for a divorce.  If during the separate maintenance action, the Defendant request the court for a divorce, the case will be changed to a divorce action, and will proceed and be completed as a divorce action.

ANNULMENT

Annulments declare that the marriage is void and therefore never legally existed.  It is rare for a court to grant an annulment, as grounds must be proven.  Based on the difficulty of proving these grounds, a party should consider filing a divorce action.

GROUNDS FOR AN ANNULMENT IN MICHIGAN

In Michigan, the grounds for an annulment are incapacity due to age, bigamy, incapacity due to mental or physical condition, duress, fraud, kinship, and improper ceremony.  Most of the grounds for annulment in the State of Michigan are difficult to prove, and few annulments are granted for that reason.

To receive an annulment in the State of Michigan, you will need to prove one of the grounds for your request for an annulment.  Then the court must decide if you have met your burden of proof, and will grant or deny your annulment.

The grounds for annulment in the State of Michigan are expanded below.  You would be required to show one of the following when seeking an annulment:

INCAPACITY DUE TO AGE: In Michigan, persons under the age of 16 are not allowed to legally marry unless they obtain a court order. If one of the parties are under 18, they must have consent of their parents or guardians to legally marry.

BIGAMY:  Bigamy takes place when one spouse was already married to another person at the time of the subsequent marriage. This type of marriage is completely void.

INCAPACITY DUE TO MENTAL CONDITION: One party was legally incapable of entering into a contract when they married.  Incapacity can include physical incapacity and mental incapacity. If one spouse was mentally incapable of entering into marriage, another person may file the annulment case on behalf of the incapable person. However, if either spouse who was incapable at the time of marriage later becomes capable and the couple continues to live together, then the marriage will become valid.

INCAPACITY DUE TO PHYSICAL CONDITION:  If one spouse suffered from a physical incapacity, defect or infirmity at the time of the marriage, the marriage may be annulled if a case is brought to court within two years of the marriage date.

CONSENT OBTAINED UNDER DURESS: One of the parties was forced into the marriage when they married.

CONSENT OBTAINED BY FRAUD: One of the parties knowingly failed to disclose that they could not have children, concealed a criminal record of a crime of moral turpitude, entered into the marriage with the intent to commit immigration fraud, or failed to understand they were actually marrying at the time of the marriage.

KINSHIP: A marriage is invalid if it’s between a man and woman who are related closer than first cousins, including step family relations (blood or affinity).

IMPROPER CEREMONY: The person who performed the ceremony did not have the legal authority to perform marriages.

OTHER REASONS: The ability of a party to freely consent to the marriage, foreign law violations, and other reasons that have to do with the validity of the marriage.

EFFECT OF ANNULMENT: When a judge orders a marriage annulled, the effect is that the marriage never existed and that the couple was never married. This is different from divorce, where a marriage exists but is then ended by a court order.

THE DIVORCE PROCESS

THE PROCESS – IN A NUT SHELL

  • The Complaint for Divorce is filed.
  • The Defendant is served with the Complaint for Divorce.
  • Defendant must be served within 90 days from the date the Clerk of the Court issues the   Summons: service may be accomplished either through a private process server, any   third party over the age of 18, or via U. S. Mail (certified/return receipt – restricted delivery).
  • After the Defendant has been served, he or she will have 21 or 28 days to file an Answer  (21 days if personally served and 28 days if served through U.S. mail)
  • If the Defendant files an Answer – then the case will be set for a scheduling conference     and settlement conference.  If the case does not settle at or before the settlement conference, a trial will be set.

THE VERIFIED COMPLAINT FOR DIVORCE

To start a divorce proceeding, you must file a Verified Complaint for Divorce and Summons in the county where you reside. In a Verified Complaint for Divorce the party filing the divorce (Plaintiff) will be required to state the following:

  • That they have resided in Michigan for 180 days or more
  • That they have resided in the county they are filing the divorce action in for 10 days or more
  • The date, city, and state where the marriage was performed
  • Name and birth dates of children
  • Date of separation (if no longer living together)
  • Identify any other county or state that has jurisdiction over the children
  • Identify any other county of state that the party has another child custody proceeding in
  • Identify any person not a party to the divorce who has physical custody of the children or claims legal or physical custody or parenting time rights with the children
  • List any information that could affect a child custody proceeding, including a proceeding for enforcement, a domestic violence proceeding, a protective order, termination of parental rights, or adoption in any state
  • A claim for spousal support (if you are requesting spousal support from your spouse)
  • A claim for attorney’s fees (if you are requesting your spouse pay for your attorney’s fees)
  • And that “there has been a breakdown of the marriage relationship to the extent that the objects of matrimony have been destroyed and there remains no reasonable likelihood that the marriage can be preserved”

The Verified Complaint for Divorce will be signed by the Plaintiff, in front of a notary public.

FILING THE DOCUMENTS WITH THE CLERK OF COURT

Once the Plaintiff has reviewed and signed the Verified Complaint for Divorce, the Verified Complaint for Divorce and Summons is filed with the clerk of the court, and the Summons is issued.  At the time of filing, there will be a filing fee paid to the clerk of the court. This filing fee varies (a divorce with no minor children is less to file than a divorce with minor children).

THE SUMMONS

The Summons is a document that is filed with the Verified Complaint for Divorce and served on the Defendant (responding party to the divorce).  The Summons notifies the Defendant that an action has commenced against them, and sets forth the time limits within which the Defendant must file an answer.

The Summons also identifies the date the Summons was issued and the expiration date of the Summons.  If the Summons is not served on the Defendant before the expiration date, the Summons is no longer valid.

SERVICE OF THE DIVORCE DOCUMENTS

After the Verified Complaint for Divorce has been filed with the clerk of the court, and the Summons has been issued, both documents must be served on the Defendant.  Service can be in person (voluntary or by a process server) or by mail.

TIME LIMITS FOR DEFENDANT TO FILE AN ANSWER

After the Defendant is served with the Summons and Verified Complaint for Divorce they will have:

•  21 days to file a written answer with the court – if served personally

•  28 days to file a written answer with the court – if they were served by mail or served outside of the state

AFFIDAVIT OF SERVICE

After the Defendant has been served, the Plaintiff must prove to the court that the Defendant has been served with the Verified Complaint for Divorce and Summons.

The Plaintiff “proves” to the court service has been completed by filing an Affidavit or Service with the clerk of court.  The Affidavit of Service shows the court the name of the person who served the Defendant, as well as the date, time, and location of service of the Defendant.

If the Defendant accepted service voluntarily, an Acknowledgment of Service must be completed and filed with the court.

DEFAULT

After the Verified Complaint for Divorce and Summons are served on the Defendant, they must file an answer with the clerk of the court within specific time limits (see “Time Limits for Defendant to File an Answer”).   If the Defendant fails to file an answer within the time allowed, a default will be entered against them.  After the default has been entered by the court, the Plaintiff can proceed with the divorce case, and request the court for a default judgment to be entered (after the required statutory wait period).

WAITING PERIOD

Michigan law establishes waiting periods depending on the individual circumstances.

  • If you do not have minor children of the marriage: There is a two-month waiting period after the filing of the Verified Complaint for Divorce has been filed.
  • If you have minor children of the marriage: There is a six-month waiting period after the after the filing of the Verified Complaint for Divorce has been filed.

A Judgment of Divorce cannot be entered earlier than these established times.

TEMPORARY ORDERS

Temporary orders are orders that remain in effect through the pendency of the divorce case, or until a new court order is entered.  Temporary orders may consist of establishing custody, parenting time, and child support, or address financial issues such as payment of the marital debt, household expenses, and spousal support.

• Temporary custody and parenting time order: Until there is a temporary order on custody and parenting time, both parties have equal rights to the children.  It is important in the early stage of the divorce to establish custody and a specific parenting time schedule.  Temporary orders on custody and parenting time will avoid the inevitable war of fighting over the children.

• Temporary order for child support: A temporary order on child support may be needed if the parties no longer reside in the same household.

• Temporary order on household expenses and debt: Whether the parties are living in the same household or not, they must address how the household expenses and marital debt will be paid.  Judges do not want to see assets be dissipated because of lack of payment (such as mortgages and car payments).  And, debt must be paid, and paid on time, to preserve credit scores.

• Mutual restraining order: A mutual restraining order is a document prohibiting parties from disposing or hiding the parties’ assets.  By having the court sign a mutual restraining order, it alleviates the concerns that either party may do so legally.

DISCOVERY PROCESS

Discovery is part of the pre-trial phase of the case where each party requests documents and information from the other side.  This process allows both parties to obtain information necessary to reach a fair and equitable settlement.  If a settlement is unsuccessful, the information exchanged may be used at trial.

DOCUMENTS REQUIRED FOR THE DISCOVERY PROCESS

The following is a checklist of documents you should compile for your attorney.  This checklist may not contain everything your attorney will need, as the discovery process is tailored to the specific facts of each case.  Here is the most basic checklist of documents used in most divorce cases:

  1. List of all bank accounts.  Provide account numbers, current balances, and statements for the last three months for each account.  (savings, checking, CD’s, credit unions)
  2. Copies of titles and registrations for all vehicles, boats. etc.
  3. Blue book values on all vehicles and boats.  Print reports for private party values for each vehicle and/or boat.
  4. Warrant Deed and statements reflecting mortgage balances owed for all real estate.
  5. Copy of Appraisal for home (if within last 3 years).
  6. Copies of life insurance policies.
  7. Most recent property tax statement and any recent appraisal reports for all real estate.
  8. Retirement account statements (401k’s, IRA’s, 403B’s, pensions, profit sharing, etc.).
  9. Statements for investments (stocks, bonds, mutual funds, etc.).
  10. Information for inheritance received during the marriage.
  11. List all credit cards and other debts (mortgages, car loans, home equity lines of credit) indicating whether joint or individual, and balance owed, and provide copies of statements for the last three months for each.
  12. Documents for all other indebtedness.
  13. Any financial statements recently prepared (ex: for loan applications).
  14. Recent paystubs for both spouses.
  15. Recent credit report to ensure that all debt is accounted for in your settlement.
  16. The last three years’ tax returns with W-2’s and schedules attached.
  17. Business interests, corporate stock certificates, etc.
  18. Franchise agreements.
  19. Employment Contracts.
  20. Lease agreements.
  21. Copy of household budget if used.
  22. Prenuptial or postnuptial agreements.
  23. If you have children under 18:
    – Verification of yearly daycare costs
    – Information on, or copy of, current health care cards
    – Cost of employer provided health insurance with breakdown for costs for self and cost for self with family

FORMS OF ALTERNATE DISPUTE RESOLUTION

MEDIATION

Mediation is an alternate dispute resolution process wherein a neutral third party assists the parties in reaching a binding agreement.  In the Mediation process, the parties maintain total control of the outcome.  Mediation is confidential, cost effective, and the written agreements are legally binding.  No decision is handed down from judge, allowing the parties to be creative with the terms of their agreement.  Since the parties created their agreement, they are more likely to abide by the terms of the agreement.

COLLABORATIVE

The parties resolve their issues in a respectful manner, using a team approach.  The team assists the parties in crafting solutions in the best interest of each party, without involving the judge to make their final decisions.  The collaborative divorce process is confidential, and the parties maintain total control of the outcome.  The collaborative process is cost effective, as it can be much less expensive than arbitration or litigation.

ARBITRATION

This alternate dispute resolution process is where a third party reviews the case, case law, and information provided and makes a final, binding decision.  This process brings the case to a close, and eliminates direct confrontation/conflict with the other party.  When a case is sent to arbitration, the parties are bound by the arbitrator’s decision.  The parties may not like the arbitrator’s decision and will have little or no recourse but to accept decision.  Therefore, the parties have no control of the outcome.

IF PARTIES ARE UNABLE TO REACH A SETTLEMENT  THE CASE PROCEEDS TO TRIAL

When you are unable to resolve your issues through mediation, then a trial will be necessary.   The following is an outline of what a day at trial resembles:

FIRST

OPENING STATEMENTS: Opening statements are an opportunity for both sides to make an opening statement to the judge, briefly presenting their issues and the facts they intend to present.  An opening statement is an outline presented by the attorneys, giving an overview of what they intend to show the judge at trial.

SECOND

WITNESSES:  Now that opening statements have concluded, witnesses will now take the stand to testify.  In a divorce trial, the plaintiff (the person who filed the divorce) will present their witnesses, evidence, and exhibits first.  Once they have completed presenting their case, the defendant will call their witnesses and present their evidence and exhibits.

THIRD

CLOSING ARGUMENTS: Once both parties have presented all of their evidence, exhibits, and witnesses, it is time for closing arguments. Similar to opening statements, closing arguments are where each attorney will provide statements to the judge that explains the facts that were presented at trial, apply the facts presented to the Michigan law, and argue to the judge for a particular outcome.

LASTLY

WRITTEN ORDER: After the trial has ended, the judge will review and take into consideration all of the testimony, exhibits, and evidence presented, apply the Michigan case law, and issue a written order.  This written order is the judge’s ruling on the issues.  After the written order, the plaintiff’s attorney will prepare the judgment of divorce.  This judgment of divorce must comport with the findings of the judge’s written order.  Once the judgment of divorce is submitted to the court, the judge will sign the judgment of divorce and the parties are officially divorced.

JUDGMENT OF DIVORCE

A Judgment of Divorce is the legal document that finalizes the divorce process.  It is the written court order that formally dissolves the marriage.  The Judgment of Divorce contains the terms of the judge’s ruling after trial on all aspects of the divorce, or the specific terms of the of the parties’ agreement.

DISCLAIMER

Note, the contents provided is this Divorce Guide are for general information purposes only, and should not be construed as legal advice on any specific facts or circumstances. The contents are intended for general information purposes only and may not be quoted or referred to in any other publication or proceeding without the prior written consent of Schmitt Law, PLLC.  You should contact your attorney to obtain advice with respect to a particular issue or concern.  Use of and access to this Divorce Guide does not create an attorney-client relationship between Schmitt Law, PLLC and the user or browser.

Filed Under: Collaborative Divorce, Divorce, High Net Worth Divorce, Other Family Law Issues Tagged With: Divorce Options

The Importance of Co-Parenting

June 6, 2022 By Laurie Schmitt

Anyone who has lived through a divorce can agree that going through the divorce process is no easy task, especially if there are children involved. However, parties need to be mindful that after their divorce, they need to be able to effectively co-parent their children.

The conclusion of the divorce may end the marriage of the parties, but it does not end the necessity to work together to raise their children. There will be many important decisions to be made regarding the children such as education, medical care, religious upbringing, and other matters. And, the parties must be able to communicate to make these decisions on behalf of their children.

In order to effectively co-parent, the parties must be able to let go of the past and focus their attention on the children – to make decisions in the best interest of the children. Your frustration and anger with your former spouse should never get in the way of making appropriate decisions for the children. You may want to take this moment to develop a new relationship with your former spouse – one in which the only focus is the children (not the failed marriage).

In order to move forward after the divorce, you will need to find a way to effectively communicate. How do you achieve that with someone you divorced?  When speaking to your former spouse use some common-sense rules:

  1. Be respectful – as one judge said to one of my clients “fake it until you can make it”. This rule certainly applies when you are communicating with your former spouse while in front of the children.
  2. Be cooperative and be willing to compromise.
  3. Never use the children to deliver messages to your former spouse. The children should never be involved with your communication, nor should they be used as the pony express.
  4. Support the decisions that are made at your former spouse’s house. It’s true that each party is allowed to have their own lifestyle and rules in their own home. However, perhaps you can agree to have some consistent rules for the children in both of your homes.
  5. Use a business tone in your communication with your former spouse. Don’t use communication about the children as a time to re-live your marriage and subsequent divorce. Post-divorce communication is about the children, and not to be used as marriage counseling or to play the blame game.
  6. If you can’t be nice, then say nothing. Take a break and reply later.

To conclude, if you and your former spouse are unable to effectively communicate, and unable to make joint decisions on behalf of the children, then one party may petition the court for sole legal custody. And if that party is successful, the other party will have no decision-making rights for the children. Hence, it is imperative to put your differences aside, and learn to co-parent.

AGREEMENTS BASED ON FAIRNESS

When attorneys listen to their clients and work together to create a fair settlement, contested divorces can be effectively settled through negotiations and alternative dispute methods. When possible, Schmitt Law, PLLC focuses on resolving divorce and child custody matters through mediation or collaborative divorce methods.  Resolving your divorce through mediation or the collaborative divorce allows you to have complete control over the outcome of your future.

GRAND RAPIDS COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE ATTORNEY SERVING KENT, OTTAWA, AND ALLEGAN COUNTY.

Contact Schmitt Law, PLLC today by completing our online contact form, or calling us at (616) 608-4634 to schedule a consultation.

Filed Under: Divorce, Other Family Law Issues Tagged With: Co-Parenting

Discovery: What Is It and What Will I Need To Provide To My Attorney

June 2, 2022 By Laurie Schmitt

Discovery is part of the pre-trial phase of the case where each party requests documents and information from the other side. This process allows both parties to obtain information necessary to reach a fair and equitable settlement. If a settlement is unsuccessful, the information exchanged will be used at trial.

WHAT WILL I NEED TO PROVIDE TO MY ATTORNEY?

The following is a checklist of documents you should compile for your attorney:

Information to give your attorney
  1. List of all bank accounts. Provide account numbers, current balances, and statements for the last three months for each account. (savings, checking, CD’s, credit unions)
  2. Copies of titles and registrations for all vehicles, boats. etc.
  3. Blue book values on all vehicles and boats. Print reports for private party values for each vehicle and/or boat.
  4. Warrant Deed and statements reflecting mortgage balances owed for all real estate.
  5. Copy of Appraisal for home (if within last 3 years).
  6. Copies of life insurance policies.
  7. Most recent property tax statement and any recent appraisal reports for all real estate.
  8. Retirement account statements (401k’s, IRA’s, 403B’s, pensions, profit sharing, etc.).
  9. Statements for investments (stocks, bonds, mutual funds, etc.).
  10. Information for inheritance received during the marriage.
  11. List all credit cards and other debts (mortgages, car loans, home equity lines of credit) indicating whether joint or individual, and balance owed, and provide copies of statements for the last three months for each.
  12. Documents for all other indebtedness.
  13. Any financial statements recently prepared (ex: for loan applications).
  14. Recent pay stubs for both spouses.
  15. Recent credit report to ensure that all debt is accounted for in your settlement.
  16. The last three years’ tax returns with W-2’s and schedules attached.
  17. Business interests, corporate stock certificates, etc.
  18. Franchise agreements.
  19. Employment Contracts.
  20. Lease agreements.
  21. Copy of household budget if used.
  22. Prenuptial or post-nuptial agreements.

If you have children under 18:

  • Verification of yearly daycare costs
  • Information on, or copy of, current health care cards
  • Cost of employer provided health insurance with breakdown for costs for self and cost for self with family

CONTACT AN EXPERIENCED DIVORCE ATTORNEY IN GRAND RAPIDS, MI

Divorce can be emotional and messy, and it’s natural for anyone going through a divorce to want to protect their financial interests. Maintaining an objective view of the situation can be difficult when you are struggling with complex emotional issues and personal tensions in your divorce. As an experienced Michigan divorce lawyer, Schmitt Law, PLLC can help you maintain control over your property in divorce, and against taking on responsibility of debt that may not be marital.  We will provide detailed guidance and support throughout every step of the process. The right attorney can increase the likelihood of you securing a favorable outcome to property and debt division in your divorce.

Laurie Schmitt of Schmitt Law, PLLC has years of experience representing clients in a wide range of difficult divorce cases. We understand the financial concerns our clients often have regarding their property ownership rights and the doubts they often experience when it comes to property division in divorce. If you are seeking a divorce, contact us today to schedule a consultation. Contact Schmitt Law, PLLC online or by calling (616) 608-4634 for a consultation today.

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    Attorney, Mediator, and Collaborative Lawyer

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    Laurie Schmitt of Schmitt Law, PLLC is a West Michigan family law attorney specializing in collaborative divorce as well as separation, divorce, child custody and support, paternity, and other family law litigation. She is licensed by Michigan State Bar and the U.S. District Court for the Western District of Michigan, and has extensive advanced training in divorce mediation and collaborative divorce.

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