Lately, there have been an overwhelming number of clients that have shared with me that every conversation, communication, and interaction with the other parent includes one or all of the following: swearing, name calling, arguing, obstructionist/undermining behavior, or outright tirades.
Why must these negative interactions take place? What is gained by acting this way? And what can you do if it is happening to you?
If you are at your wits end because every encounter with the other parent is a struggle, the following tips may be helpful:
- Limit how you will communicate with the other parent: via email or text only.
- Limit what you will respond to: only important and necessary subject matters related to the children.
- In a moment of anger, do not engage in reciprocal negative communication.
- Take control. You decide when you will respond to the other parent. There is no rule that you must respond immediately to someone who is acting inappropriately. Take a moment, calm yourself, and respond only to what is necessary. This may mean that you respond several hours later, the next day, or not at all if no response is necessary.
- If the behavior of the other parent is completely out of control, request the court for an order requiring all communication to take place through Our Family Wizard. Our Family Wizard is an online service that allows you to communicate with the other parent regarding parenting time, exchanges, appointments and schedules of the children, and to request expenses to be paid. It takes the stress out of unwanted and unexpected emails, texts, and calls from the other parent. And, all communications are documented and can be used later in court, if necessary.
Unfortunately, some parents refuse to see the value in effective co-parenting, and refuse to be respectful in their dealings with the other parent. Know that you will never change their behavior. But you can take back some control and change how you react.
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If you are experiencing ineffective co-parenting with the other parent, contact Schmitt Law, PLLC to discuss what your options may be. At Schmitt Law, PLLC we are experienced in family law cases involving visitation and custody. Over the years, we have successfully represented hundreds of clients in complicated cases. For skilled legal guidance, contact Schmitt Law, PLLC online or (616) 608-4634 to schedule a consultation.