After your divorce is all said and done, and the ink has dried on your Judgement of Divorce, you look back and wonder. You wonder what you could have done differently in your divorce. Could your divorce process have been easier? Could you have done things differently? Could you have made different decisions? Could you have saved money on attorney’s fees by avoiding fights?
Here is a short list of some of the statements clients have shared on what they wished they would have done differently during their divorce:
- Not spent as much money on attorney’s fees fighting over small issues that really mean nothing now.
- Not fought over personal property
- Been willing to see and understand the viewpoint of their spouse
- Stepped back and realized not everything needed to be a war
- Picked their battles more carefully
- Seen the bigger picture in their divorce
- Not disparaged the other parent in front of the children
- Not let anger drive their decisions
- Kept their children first and foremost in their decisions
- Talked to a counselor
- Not engaged with their spouse with negative rhetoric
- Not lowered themselves and constantly responded to their spouse’s negative behaviors
- Not singularly focused on what brought them to divorce
- Paid more attention to the business aspects of the divorce and less focus on their emotions
- Not made every conversation with their family and friends about their divorce
- Learned to maintain a positive perspective about the outcome of the divorce
- Not let their anger fuel them
- Learned to let go
- Not buried their head in the sand and acted as if their marriage wasn’t ending
- Thought there could be a reunification with their spouse and failed to pay attention to important decisions that needed to be made in their divorce
- Didn’t take their spouse seriously about the divorce action
- Waited until the last minute to hire counsel
- Not attempted to handle the case without counsel or obtaining any legal advice
- Not given in to every demand of their spouse out of guilt
- Followed their attorney’s direction better
GET TO THE OTHER SIDE OF YOUR LEGAL JOURNEY WITH SCHMITT LAW, PLLC. GRAND RAPIDS COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE ATTORNEY SERVING KENT, OTTAWA, AND ALLEGAN COUNTY.
At Schmitt Law, PLLC, we understand filing for divorce can be an emotional and confusing experience. That’s why we are committed to providing personalized service to each client we represent, and will be with you through this difficult journey. At Schmitt Law, PLLC we encourage clients to take a more collaborative approach to divorce that promotes positive communication and cooperation. Through mediation or the collaborative divorce process, Laurie guides her clients through amicable divorce settlements so they can move forward with their life.
To discuss your circumstances and legal options, contact Schmitt Law, PLLC at (616) 608-4634 to schedule a consultation. Or contact us online to arrange a consultation. Our office is located at 401 Hall Street SW, Suite 112D, Grand Rapids, MI 49503.
