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The Do’s and Don’ts of Holiday Parenting Time

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Once again, the holidays are fast approaching.  Children of separated or divorced families often find themselves in a difficult position…. torn with loyalties.  Children grow up fast.  Divorce can make the holidays difficult for both parents and children. Parents should shift their focus on building great holiday memories for the children to look back on.

Holiday Parenting Time
  • Do: encourage your children to have a wonderful time at the other parent’s home
  • Don’t: make your children feel bad about wanting to spend time with the other parent during the holidays
  • Do: provide your children the opportunity to speak to the other parent (text, phone, skype) if it is geographically impossible for the children to spend time with the other parent
  • Don’t: grill your children when they return home from the other parent’s home
  • Do: give your children the time to spend with their siblings and step-siblings
  • Don’t: try to compete with the other parent for the children’s attention
  • Do: do allow the children to call their grandparents (from the other parent)
  • Don’t: make holiday gift giving a competition 
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  • Do: allow the children to take their gifts to the other parent’s home
  • Don’t: don’t purchase the children’s gifts that you know the other parent would be extremely opposed to
  • Do: allow the children to come up with new holiday traditions
  • Don’t: dwell on old traditions (“when we were a happy family”)
  • Do: allow the children to attend school and church holiday functions, even when they fall on your parenting time
  • Don’t: ask the children to choose who had the better holiday, it’s not a competition
  • Do: understand that your children may be struggling with their loyalties and validate their feelings
  • Don’t: introduce new significant others to the children.  The holidays are not the appropriate time to introduce the children to your new significant others as the focus should be on their time with you.
  • Do: be respectful with the other parent’s holiday time by exchanging the children on time and at the designated location
  • Don’t: purchase the children a gift that will be a financial burden to the other parent (unless you have discussed it with the other parent and agreed on the purchase)
  • Do: respect the other parent’s religious observations, or lack thereof, when you are talking to the children – if you can’t say anything nice, say nothing at all!
  • Don’t:  over plan every minute of your holiday parenting time, to include spending the entire holiday parenting time traveling to see extended family
  • Do: understand that your children are older than you think they are, have friends, and are growing more independent…they may want to spend time with their friends over their holiday breaks
  • Don’t:  argue with the other parent about holiday plans in front of the children

For assistance with your divorce and to develop a fair and equitable plan for holiday parenting time, contact me, Laurie Schmitt, at Schmitt Law, PLLC. I am an Attorney, Mediator, and Collaborative Divorce lawyer.

What the Court Considers When Changing Parenting Time

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What the Court Considers When Changing Parenting Time

Are you considering requesting the court to modify your parenting time?

Has the other parent filed a motion to change parenting time?

If you have answered yes to either of the above questions, you need to know what the judge considers when granting or denying a motion to change parenting time?

MCL 722.27a (6) provides guidance on what the court may consider when determining the frequency, duration and type of parenting time, These factors are as follows:

(a)   The existence of any special circumstances or needs of the child.

(b)   Whether the child is a nursing child less than 6 months of age, or less than 12 year of age if the child receives substantial nutrition through nursing.

(c)   The reasonable likelihood of abuse or neglect of the child during parenting time.

(d)   The reasonable likelihood of abuse of a parent resulting from the exercise of parenting time.

(e)   The inconvenience to, and burdensome impact or effect on, the child traveling for purposes of parenting time.

(f)   Whether a parent can reasonably be expected to exercise parenting time in accordance with the court order.

(g)   Whether a parent has frequently failed to exercise reasonable parenting time.

(h)   The threatened or actual detention of the child with the intent to retain or conceal the child from the other parent or from a third person who has legal custody.

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A custodial parent’s temporary residence with the child in a domestic violence shelter shall not be construed as evidence a custodial parent’s intent to retain or conceal the child from the other parent.

In addition, there are some other considerations that can be looked at, such as:

  • The flexibility of the parents’ schedules
  • The developmental stage of the children
  • Special needs or restrictions of a parent
  • Ability of the parents to communicate and cooperate
  • Conflict level between the parents
  • Distance between the homes of the parents
  • The maturity level of the children
  • Children’s commitment to community such as work, school events, or participation on other activities
  • The children’s cultural and religious practices
  • The nature of the parent/child relationship at the present time
  • Parental fitness concerns, such as domestic violence, substance abuse or mental health issues
  • The parent’s ability to care for the children and meet the needs of the children
  • The parent’s availability to meet the need of the children
  • When determining he breaks from school, consider the number of exchanges

The DOs and DON’Ts During Your Child Custody Dispute

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The DOs and DON’Ts During Your Child Custody Dispute

I don’t know if anyone is ever comfortable with the idea of “fighting” over their children, but child custody disputes are the most common and difficult—both emotionally and from a legal standpoint—areas of conflict that I see in my West Michigan family law practice.

What do you do if you are one of those parents, and you find yourself on the brink of what feels like an emotional war over your kids. Or, what if it’s already turned nasty, and everything you do seems to be getting back to the judge?

Begin by asking yourself: what type of parent do you believe you are? Would a judge think you were a good parent if they could see your behavior, even outside of the courtroom, during the case? Do your decisions reflect a parent that puts the needs of their children ahead of themselves? It’s important to understand that your day-to-day actions and words—whether done and said in the heat of an emotional conversation with ex or not— will make their way to the judge if your case goes to trial. And if you are reading this and thinking this won’t happen in your specific situation, I implore you to think again.

Emotions and feelings of betrayal or entitlement aside, you need to understand what any judge hearing your child custody case will be concerned with.

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Judges are concerned with the “moral fitness” or character of the person standing in front of them and that person’s ability to make good decisions as a parent. Yes, that means that whether you like it or not, or you think it is fair or not, your judge will use the evidence that is presented to her in your trial as the basis of determining your character. That means your judge is tasked by the law to make their best decision about who are you as a parent, and whether you truly put your kids’ best interests first, without the benefit of having seen who you may have been before you found yourself in this awful situation. So what do you do to ensure that your judge sees you in the light you see yourself as your children’s parent? Here are some DOs and DON’Ts I recommend to my own clients to help them prevail in their child custody cases:

1. DO stay active with your children’s education, regardless of where your kids are currently staying during the   school week.

  • Attend all parent/teacher conferences, and stay in weekly contact with your kids’ teachers through email, by telephone or in person.
  • Be proactive about addressing issues your children may be having in school.
  • Make it a priority to attend all of your kids’ extracurricular activities, even if that’s something you and your ex used to divide and conquer. It’s a whole new world during a child custody dispute, and your focus should be on the importance of your kids’ education and development.

2. DO get your kids counseling, even even if it’s just a few sessions with a therapist who can help them work through their new realities.

Every child copes with change in his own way. Even if you think your children are handling things well, every child in the middle of a custody war between two adults they probably love benefits from having a neutral third party they can talk to about their feelings. Your children need to feel safe while this process is ongoing. And remember, your children feel your anxiety and frustration, even when you don’t think they are paying attention, take care of their mental health.

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3. DON’T date during your divorce!

  • Instead, DO focus on your kids because it shows the court that you are placing the children’s needs ahead of your own.
  • But what if I really, really need to date? I am going to restate what I just said, in case you skipped over it to get to this section: DON’T date during your divorce. However, if you do choose to date,
  • DON’T introduce the children to your significant others. Be mindful that your children are struggling emotionally with the breakup of the family. If your significant other is important to you, and there is a genuine chance that they are going to remain in your life after the case, then they will understand that there will be a more appropriate time in the future for you to introduce them to your children.
  • That definitely means DON’T have your significant other spend the night when you have your kids!
  • DON’T spend the night away from home unless it is for business (and if it is for business, DO keep documentation). Staying the night away from home can show, once again, that your needs come before your children’s. And, it can be misread as a possible affair.
  • Even if you were never married to the other parent and are in the middle of a child custody battle, take note. Having multiple new people in and out of the children’s lives is not going to be viewed as healthy or appropriate by your judge. So, DON’T do it.

4. DON’T use social media. For more insights into why I think my clients are best served taking a social media break during a child custody case, see a recent post I wrote on this very topic.

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5. DON’T be insane!

  • That means DON’T engage in name calling, arguing, or using foul language in front of your kids. They’re already dealing with enough. Your inappropriate behavior toward your children’s other parent— in front of your children no less— demonstrates a lack of discretion, and it places your children on the front line of the war.
  • DON’T be insane in your written communications, either.
  • DO make sure that all verbal and written communication to the other parent is relevant to your children.
  • DO remember: Anything you put in writing can and will show up in court. If you send it, the judge may read it.
  • DO ask yourself before you hit send: Is what I am saying in this email or text really how I want the judge to see me? If the answer isn’t a resounding ‘YES’, delete it.
  • DON’T disparage your kids’ other parent in front of them.
  • Instead, DO focus your activities around your kids when they are with you.
  • DON’T spend what should be quality time with your children making sarcastic comments about your ex to them, or to others in front of them. By doing so, you may be unintentionally making your kids feel like they have to take sides on which parent they like more.
  • I’m guessing none of you really wanted things to go this way, but your kids are the ones with the least control in these situations, so DON’T add to their stress by making them feel like they are the frayed rope in an angry game of tug-of-war.
  • DON’T stalk, harass, or repeatedly call your ex. The last thing you need to have happen is the judge to call your mental health into question. And engaging those types of behaviors will certainly give the judge cause to ponder your character as a person and as a fit parent.
  • DON’T fight at encounters or exchanges. You are there to drop off or pick up your children, not to engage in battle with the other parent. And if you are having issues with the other parent’s behavior at exchanges, DO document the exchanges via video.

6. DO continue taking your kids to church if that’s what you’ve done historically.

  • DO feel free to enroll them in church-related activities that are age appropriate.
  • However, if you and your children have no history of church attendance prior to the custody case, DON’T use your new-found interest in church as a reason to try to prohibit the other parent from weekend parenting time.
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This might seem obvious, but you’d be surprised:

7. DON’T do anything illegal.

  • DON’T get arrested. Really, if you can’t stop yourself from doing things that could during your child custody case, why would the judge have any reason to believe you should be the parent who is awarded custody?
  • DON’T even risk the seemingly “silly little things” like driving without a license.
  • If your license has been revoked or suspended, DON’T drive. Doing so shows complete disregard for the law. Judges don’t like that.
  • DON’T use drugs and/or alcohol.
  • You may be required by the court to take a drug screen.If the other party has alleged that you have a history of illegal drug use—DO voluntarily obtain a drug screen during the case.
  • And, above all else, DON’T test “dirty” on any mandatory drug screens. That’s a sure way to say ‘goodbye’ to being granted custody of your children.

8. DO behave as though all of your activities are being documented by a private investigator and will be used at trial.

It’s not uncommon for private investigators to be hired in custody cases. Who knows your habits better than your ex? They know where you party. If they are attempting to make you look bad, what better way than to get video footage of you drunk at the bar. And while we are on the topic of bars:

9. DON’T go to bars or nightclubs while your child custody case is ongoing. These types of activities will only make you look bad at trial, as there is no way to spin frequenting bars and acting like a drunk for a judge. Believe it or not, the risks of unintentionally behaving badly after a night at the bar far outweigh the benefits, even though it may not always feel that way.

It may feel like the DON’Ts outnumber the DOs at a point in time in your life when you already probably don’t feel like you have much control. This is when I remind my clients that even though it doesn’t feel like it right now, their child custody case is not going to last forever. Remember:

DO take your kids’ best interests into consideration before you say or do anything during a child custody case. Even if you believe you always have and do to this day, now is the time to be even more diligent. And honestly, your kids need it right now more ever. Custody battles are frustrating and hard. Judges make custody determinations specifically on whom they believe is really going to look out for your children’s best interests.

DO give the judge as many reasons as possible to like you not only as a parent, but also as a person, and to rule in your favor.

Fighting for your children is a hard enough process to go through.

DON’T make choices or mistakes that you could easily avoid. DO everything with the best outcome for your children in mind.

The Difference between Legal and Physical Custody in Michigan

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The Difference between Legal and Physical Custody in Michigan

If you’re going through a divorce, or in the midst of a custody battle, it’s important to understand what the custody terms means in Michigan. In Michigan, the courts recognize two types of custody: physical and legal.

PHYSICAL CUSTODY:
Physical custody determines where the children will live and their living arrangements. Custody can be sole or joint. Sole physical custody means physical custody is given to only one parent. The child will primarily reside with that parent, and that parent provides most of the day to day care for the child. Joint physical custody means the parents share custody.

LEGAL CUSTODY:
Legal custody determines who will make important decisions for the children. If sole legal custody is awarded, only one parent has the authority to make these decisions. However, if joint legal custody is awarded, both parties will be involved in making important legal decisions for the child such as where they go to school, what religion they are, if and what extra-curricular activities the child will participate in, and major medical decisions. Joint legal does not depend on the amount of time that the child spends with each parent. No matter what the physical custody is, parents can share joint legal custody of the child.

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Examples of what joint legal custody is as follows:

  1. Each party will foster, encourage and support the relationship between the minor child and the other parent.
  2. The parties will consult together concerning major decisions involving the health, education, religion and welfare of the minor child. Neither party shall enroll the child in a school without agreement of the other or an order of the court.
  3. The parties will both use their best efforts to ensure consistency in matters affecting the upbringing of the minor child and to work together to promote the best interests of the minor child.
  4. Each parent will promptly advise the other of any illness, emergency, or other significant events concerning the minor child (including school or health problems) of which the parent becomes aware.
  5. Each parent will be entitled to complete access to the minor child’s school, medical, psychological, religious and other records.
  6. The parties shall each be entitled to be informed of all parent/teacher conferences and all other activities (including sports) and/or school programs in which the child are involved and parents are invited to attend.
  7. The parties shall each be entitled to copies of the minor child’s report cards, medical records and current school photographs.
  8. Each party shall keep the other party generally informed of his or her whereabouts in the event of an emergency, including their present address, personal telephone number, and any other emergency contact number.
  9. Each party shall decide all routine matters concerning the minor child during such time that he or she has physical custody of or parenting time with the minor child. The parties will each use their best efforts to provide consistency for the child in connection with such routine matters.
  10. Each party shall have the right to make routine emergency decisions regarding the minor child when the child are with him or her.
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DETERMINING THE CHILD’S BEST INTEREST: It’s always best when parents can agree on custody. However, when parents are unable to agree on custody, then the court must decide on custody and parenting time by reviewing the “best interest factors of the child”.

This legal test requires the court to consider these 12 factors:

  1. The love, affection and other emotional ties existing between the parties involved and the child.
  2. The capacity and disposition of the parties involved to give the child love, affection and guidance and to continue the education and raising of the child in his or her religion or creed, if any.
  3. The capacity and disposition of the parties involved to provide the child with food, clothing, medical care or other remedial care recognized and permitted under the laws of this state in place of medical care, and other material needs.
  4. The length of time the child has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment and the desirability of maintaining continuity.
  5. The permanence, as a family unit, of the existing or proposed custodial home or homes.
  6. The moral fitness of the parties involved.
  7. The mental and physical health of the parties involved.
  8. The home, school, and community record of the child.
  9. The reasonable preference of the child, if the court deems the child to be of sufficient age to express a preference.
  10. The willingness and ability of each of the parties to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing parent-child relationship between the child and the other parent or the child and the parents.
  11. Domestic violence, regardless of whether the violence was directed against or witnessed by the child.
  12. Any other factor considered by the court to be relevant to a particular child. Schmitt Law, PLLC knows that your first priority is your children, and will find creative solutions that fits your specific situation.

Schmitt Law, PLLC can advise and represent parents throughout the entire custody process, offering skilled advocacy for parents, while being empathetic to the challenges involved in determining child custody. Laurie Schmitt of Schmitt Law, PLLC is a West Michigan family law attorney specializing in collaborative divorce as well as separation, divorce, child custody and support, paternity, and other family law litigation. She is licensed by Michigan State Bar and the U.S. District Court for the Western District of Michigan, and has extensive advanced training in divorce mediation and collaborative divorce. Contact Laurie at (616) 608-4634 for a confidential consultation.

Ten Things “Not to Do Next” in Your Divorce

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Ten Things “Not to Do Next” in Your Divorce

You’ve heard it a million times that going through a divorce is difficult. As a West Michigan Divorce Attorney, I can state that divorce is full of challenging moments. However, with some common sense, you can avoid some common divorce pitfalls by following a few basic rules:

  1. Don’t start a new relationship. Well, Duh! Need I say more. Respect the current relationship and see it to the end. Don’t confuse your children with introductions to new “friends” while in the midst of the divorce. Judges don’t appreciate it, as it shows a lack of good judgment. And it will only fuel the fire in the divorce proceeding. If this is a person you intend to have a serious relationship with at the conclusion of the divorce, then they will understand that this is not the appropriate time to be introduced to the children.
  2. Couch surfing sucks! Don’t move out of the marital home without a plan. Changes will happen as you go through your divorce, so be prepared to deal with life as it comes at you. The biggest change clients struggle with is adapting to living on a now single income. During this turbulent time, you need to provide stability for your children. That means you need to provide an appropriate home for them while going through the divorce. So, don’t jump the gun and move out of the marital home without a solid financial plan, and a safe place for your children to visit or live.
  3. Don’t share the details of your divorce with your children. Divorce doesn’t mean hide the fact that you are going through a divorce from your children. But there are certain facts that should remain between adults. Allow your children to be children for as long as possible. Remember, the changes taking place in your life are also taking place in theirs. It’s hard enough for children to cope with major life changes. They certainly shouldn’t be burdened with adult conversation and information about the divorce. Adult conversation is just that!
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  1. Your children are not the Pony Express. Don’t use your children as a go between to relay messages to your spouse. If you are unable to speak to your spouse civilly, then hire an attorney to assist you. It will be their job to communicate with your spouse or spouse’s attorney during the divorce. But, don’t use your children as a form of communication between each other.
  2.  It wasn’t immaculate conception! Don’t think that because you are divorcing, you are the only parent. The children have two parents – and always will. Don’t force them to choose between their parents. They love both of you. So, avoid putting them in the middle of the hostility and anger.
  3. Your children are not Olympic gold medal winners! Don’t use extra-curricular activities to monopolize your children’s free time. If they didn’t participate in the activity while you were married, they most likely don’t need to participate in the activity while the divorce is pending. Now is not the time to enroll them in an excessive amount of activities, especially if these activities take place on your spouse’s parenting time. If you can’t agree on extra-curricular activities, the rule should be that parenting time with the other parent is far more important than participation in an extra-curricular activity.
  4. It’s not your way or the highway! We all know divorce is hard on children. It is hard enough for the children to acclimate to living in two households. Respect that there are now two households for the children, with two sets of rules. Although consistency is ideal, you can’t expect your soon to be ex-spouse to share in your beliefs and rules regarding discipline.
  5. Avoid purchasing big ticket items while going through your divorce. It’s not the time to buy a new car or home. Wait until the dust settles, and you’ve reached a settlement agreement with your spouse. Your spouse could claim that you used marital money to finance your new car or home. It then may become a marital asset to be divided in the divorce.
  6. Pay your bills. You need to continue to meet your obligations. If it is a joint debt, you remain obligated. There is life after divorce. And the consequences of your decisions during your divorce will follow you afterwards. Some people believe that getting a divorce means walking away from marital debt and starting over. No! You still have responsibilities – meet them.
  7. Your bartender is not your counselor! Use discretion when talking about your divorce. Don’t over-share all the details of your divorce with your friends and colleagues. Refrain from making every conversation about the trials and tribulations of your divorce. Some things are better left private. And, after the divorce, you want your friends to be standing by you.

Parental Child Abduction

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Parental Child Abduction

Are you going through a divorce and have imminent concerns that your spouse will remove the children from the United States, and refuse to return them?

If so, there are steps that you can take to prevent your spouse removing the children from the United States.

The first action is to have your family law attorney obtain an order from the court preventing removal of the children from the United States. Once you have obtained this order, you next should contact the U.S. Department of State and enroll your children in the Children’s Passport Issuance Alert Program (CPIAP).

CPIAP allows parents who have “imminent concerns” about parental abduction to enroll their U.S. citizen children in CPIAP. CPIAP prevents the other parent from applying for, and obtaining a passport for the children without consent from the other parent. Note, this program is only for children that are U.S. citizens.

For details regarding this program see this site: Children’s Passport Issuance Program

I Want Custody of My Children, but I Love Facebook: Why you should ‘unfriend’ Facebook during a custody case

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Why you should ‘unfriend’ Facebook during your child custody case

Although my West Michigan family law practice involves meeting with clients about a range of issues, child custody issues are often the most challenging for my clients. The toll child custody takes on the individual parties’ emotions, children, and finances is the number one reason why I encourage people to learn more about Collaborative Divorce before things become too heated.

Child custody cases can be gut wrenching for all of the parties involved, depending on the nature of the case. Unfortunately, it is the emotional nature of child custody issues that makes my clients’ misuse of social media one of my most challenging issues as an attorney.

I get it. It feels good—even if it’s just for a moment— to blow off steam with a piping hot Facebook post (that doesn’t actually mention your soon-to-be-ex by name, so it’s harmless, right?). And all of those Facebook ‘likes’ on our child custody issue frustrations and woes can feel very validating at a time when we probably need validation from our friends and family the most.

However, if you stopped on this post because you think you are about to be involved in, are in the middle of, or are even nearing the end of a child custody issue, please DO NOT update your Facebook status until you have finished reading this.

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Here are my top seven recommendations I make to my own clients who are going through a child custody dispute:

  1. NEVER slam your ex on social media. 
  2. In fact, I instruct all of my clients to refrain from any and all Facebook updating, commenting, liking, or sharing that can be seen as making a comment on the case or disparaging the other party. Believe it or not, as good as the short-term adrenaline rush might feel to post your true feelings about the case on Facebook for the world, and especially your ex, to see, that’s all that it really does is heat up an already difficult situation.
  3. Better yet, stay off Facebook until your case is complete. Don’t use Facebook to share your life with the world while your case (and your child’s and your future) is pending with the court. It’s simple: if you stay off Facebook, nothing you say, innocent or otherwise, can be used against you, because it’s just not there to be found.
  4. If you decide to stay active on social media during your child custody dispute, remember that your social media photos are worth more than a thousand words. Never post pictures of themselves in bars, drinking alcohol, at parties, and definitely NEVER using illegal substances. What you may see as innocent pictures of a fun night out with friends, are now being shown in court as a way to support your ex’s effort to depict you as the worst parent in the world.
  5. Remember: If it is on your Facebook account, your judge will see it.
  6. Social media privacy is an oxymoron. If you think none of this applies to you because you are smart and have your social media accounts set to private, think again. You would be amazed at how many of my clients’ “friends” have been willing to provide their opposing party with access to their “private” social media posts and photos.
  7. But if your account is not set to private, your ex’s attorney IS regularly reviewing your activity. I know in my own practice I have looked at numerous Facebook accounts and have found photos including drugs and drug paraphernalia laying about the house, photos of people who are visibly intoxicated, photos that undoubtedly show an adulterous relationship, and read volumes of derogatory comments about the other party that go directly to the comment author’s own fitness as a parent.

The real take home point, in case you have missed it, is that when you are fighting for your children, stay away from Facebook and other social media while your child custody case is ongoing. What you post can be twisted and turned against you. Getting through a heated custody case is hard enough. There is no reason to make your attorney’s job as your advocate harder because of a ridiculous Facebook post.

Before you post that comment or photo on Facebook, remember your end goal: custody of your children. Facebook will be there for you when it’s all over.

Common Divorce Questions: How Is Child Support Determined?

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Child support can be a contentious issue.  The way it is resolved in our jurisdiction is that all family law attorneys use the same support formula the court uses.  We have a software program at Schmitt Law, PLLC, that we use to determine the amount of support one parent pays to the other.

What is Child Support?

Child support is a court-ordered payment from one parent to the other to help support the raising of the children.  It stems from the legal theory that children have a legal right to financial support from both parents.  A parent cannot avoid paying child support by agreeing to have his or her parental rights terminated.

The Michigan child support formula determines which parent will pay support.  Some factors considered are:

  • The income earned by each parent.
  • The number of children that are supported.
  • How many overnights the children spend with each parent.

We put those numbers into our software program, and it objectively gives us a number.  The parents can deviate from that amount only if there is a legitimate reason to do so.

If one parent wants the other to pay a different amount, we must do a deviation addendum explaining why and file it with the court.  A friend of the court and the court must approve the request, and then it becomes the order of the court.

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Why Does a Parent Pay Child Support?

Some parents get confused about why they pay child support.  They may say “I buy everything for my kids.  Why do I have to give the other parent any money?”  The answer is that Michigan state law says it is the child’s right to receive support and the parents may not waive it.

The child support formula involves determining amounts to be paid by each parent for:

  • The uninsured portion of health care costs to be paid by each parent.  The custodial parent will have to reach a certain amount of out-of-pocket payments before that number is used.
  • Basic needs for food, clothing, and shelter.
  • School supplies.
  • Extracurricular activities.

If the parents want to agree on an amount, and the court confirms it meets the needs of the children, the parents can do that.

One thing the court cannot do is mandate how the receiving parent spends the money.  That parent does not have to keep an accounting of how the money is spent.  The paying parent cannot micromanage the spending habits of the receiving parent.

Am I am able to receive child support during the pendency of the divorce action?

On the onset of the divorce, either party may file a motion to establish temporary custody, parenting time, and child support.  This Order will remain in effect until the Court issues a new Order, or until the Judgment of Divorce is signed.

For assistance with your child support issue, contact me, Laurie Schmitt, at Schmitt Law, PLLC.  I am an Attorney, Mediator, and Collaborative Divorce lawyer.