I doubt many would say that getting a divorce is easy. But…
You took the time to consult with attorneys. You carefully selected and retained a skilled, qualified divorce attorney to guide you through the tough journey. Now, the question is “do I listen to this professional, or do I waste my money”? It really is the choice of the client to make appropriate use of their divorce attorney. Failure to do so will only result in the financial benefit of the divorce attorney.
The following are the most common ways for a client to waste their money with their divorce attorney:
- Using your divorce attorney as your counselor – Clients should leave the counseling to professionals licensed to counsel, allowing the divorce attorney to practice law. Every call, email, and text to and from your attorney becomes billable to you. Divorce attorneys understand the emotional struggles of clients and are willing to provide some emotional support. However, divorce attorneys are not trained nor licensed to be therapists. Clients should be encouraged to seek support through divorce groups, and/or counselors qualified to assist people who are going through a divorce.
- Failing to be honest with your divorce attorney – You hired a divorce attorney to guide your through the divorce process, and to fight for your rights. But yet, you fail to be truthful with your divorce attorney. Even an omission can be a devesting set back in a divorce case. Failure to tell your divorce attorney about an event that may not put you in the best light can harm the final outcome of your case. Your divorce attorney needs to know the facts, whether the facts are good or bad for you. It’s better that your divorce attorney understands the facts sooner than later. The alternative is that your divorce attorney is blindsided in court with facts that should have been shared with them well before court.
- The “blame game” – Clients spend too much time communicating with their divorce attorney in an effort to make their spouse “look bad”. Divorce attorneys understand that you and your spouse are seeking a divorce for a reason, and that you no longer may get along. It is a very rare occasion that only one person can be blamed for the complete breakdown of the marriage.
- Engaging in the Tupperware wars – Clients refuse to do simple math. Clients should ask themselves “Is what I am fighting for worth the cost of attorney’s fees?”. Make smart decisions about what truly is worth fighting for and focus your efforts on those issues that are worth the financial investment.
- Fighting the divorce – You have been served with divorce papers and took action to hire an attorney. Yet, your energy is spent on finding ways to get your spouse back. You refuse to be cooperative with your attorney. The one thing a divorce attorney can’t do is make your spouse change their mind about the divorce. Your focus is best placed assisting your attorney to obtain the best outcome you can – to assist in protecting your future.